defining independence

 Independence is considered a positive attribute to strive towards. But if you ask people to define independence, you may find that many have trouble explaining , it seems that for many it is a  concept. 

Independence can be divided up into different categories of independence. The main categories are: Mental Independence, Behavioural Independence and Survival-based Independence.

1.) Mental Independence
An important distinction exists between independent thinking and rebellious thinking. Rebelling against someone else’s ideas means that you purposefully take the exact opposite stance to someone’s ideas, and so their ideas are ultimately controlling yours.

Mental independence is being able to think for yourself, regardless of what others think and say. It involves accessing your internal resources, listening to your inner voice, weighing up all the facts and feelings you’ve accumulated, and forming opinions based on this. Mental independence is the basis of independent thinking, independent decision-making, and leads to independent actions and behaviour.

2.) Behavioural Independence
Independent behaviour is partly based on mental independence, because it is only after you can think independently, that you can make independent choices in life from what to eat, to what you choose to do for a living. In other words, mental independence enables you to act independently.
Behavioural independence also involves freedom from control or influence of others.

3.) Survival-based Independence

The ultimate point of independence is being equipped to look after yourself to enable your successful survival. In our world, this means:

• - Financial independence: This involves earning money ourselves to allow us to buy food and pay for shelter
• - Safety-related Independence: This involves knowing how to maintain your safety, how to avoid dangerous situations and how to handle them if they occur.
• - Self-care-related Independence: This entails knowing how to look after yourself to maintain your good health and fitness, and taking care of all your needs, including social ones-self-care is having a healthy social life,group interdependence.
• Being independent does not mean living a solitary life and never asking for help. Asking for help only becomes dependence if one person uses the other without the intention of giving anything back. Dependence also occurs when a person lacks the intention of learning to become self-sufficient.

..anonymous source 

soldier..soldiering on

a soldier possibly is someone who walks on because of his faith/responsibilities/irrespective for a bigger cause than his own/without support ..just walks on and on..so any one who represents the same ..this anonymous poem is for the person

The soldier stood and faced God,Which must always come to pass.
He hoped his shoes were shining,just as brightly as his brass.

'Step forward now, you soldier,How shall I deal with you?
Have you always turned the other cheek? To My Church have you been true?'

The soldier squared his shoulders and said,'No, Lord, I guess I ain't.
Because those of us who carry guns,Can't always be a saint.

I've had to work most Sundays,And at times my talk was tough.
And sometimes I've been violent,Because the world is awfully rough.

But, I never took a penny,That wasn't mine to keep...
Though I worked a lot of overtime,When the bills got just too steep.

And I never passed a cry for help,Though at times I shook with fear.
And sometimes, God, forgive me,I've wept unmanly tears.

I know I don't deserve a place,Among the people here.
They never wanted me around,Except to calm their fears.

If you've a place for me here, Lord,It needn't be so grand.
I never expected or had too much,But if you don't, I'll understand.

There was a silence all around the throne,where the saints had often trod.
As the soldier waited quietly,for the judgment of his God.

'Step forward now, you soldier,You've borne your burdens well.
Walk peacefully on Heaven's streets,You've done your time in Hell.'

Author Unknown~

forever song ..

some songs remain forever ..everytime one sees it , hears it ..touches a chord ..uploading for eternity..for all who love to express with music ....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWDPrEn-IbI&feature=related

Every night in my dreams 
I see you. I feel you. 
That is how I know you go on. 

Far across the distance 
And spaces between us 
You have come to show you go on. 

Near, far, wherever you are 
I believe that the heart does go on 
Once more you open the door 
And you're here in my heart 
And my heart will go on and on 

Love can touch us one time 
And last for a lifetime 
And never go till we're one 

Love was when I loved you 
One true time I hold to 
In my life we'll always go on 

Near, far, wherever you are 
I believe that the heart does go on 
Once more you open the door 
And you're here in my heart 
And my heart will go on and on 

There is some love that will not 
go away 

You're here, there's nothing I fear, 
And I know that my heart will go on 
We'll stay forever this way 
You are safe in my heart 
And my heart will go on and on ...