Accommodate, Adjust, Adapt ..the way

As i see around

….From times immemorial it is the ability to accommodate, adjust, adapt which is at the forefront of development..even the Darwin theory was ..the fittest survived .To be the fittest ..one has to accommodate, adapt, adjust .Be it a city, be it a human being, be it a machine..be it a relationship.

A relationship requires a person to accommodate to the changing circumstances, adapt to the habits and behavior, and adapt to keep the relationship going on.

A city has to go through the same and accommodate the changing demographics, adjust to the behaviour and adapt to the expectations of its seemingly “intelligent, civilized” population. A machine, a mobile is successful only because it is continuously adapting itself till it becomes personalized..

When there is so much of accommodating, adjusting, adapting why do people still like actions and people who rebel- an Aamir Khan who boycotts functions, a Salman Khan who does not need social institutions to prove his acceptance and popularity.

 Even though evolution, education, societal norms makes more prototypes (that is why companies choose similar groups of behavior patterns..programs most watched..high TVRs/clothes more popular/social norms, accepted behavior that the majority of people accept) -Why would we let go of individuality?

Why does being accepted mean that one has to adjust and adapt once own way of thinking?

Maybe one can accommodate, adapt, adjust most things but not the individuality of what you are ..be it a human being, a city or a historical representation.

Adapt and adjust ..accomodate for reasons known to you..but to loose yourself  till you know no more what you were ; and you do not recognize the face in the mirror ….

….maybe this is not the way ..for years afterwards ..you would look in the rear view mirror and think ..of what you left behind. Take care..

Temper

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said “you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.”

You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.

Moral : Make sure you control your words and temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later, even if you forget..the scars would have remained.

The world around you is a reflection, a mirror ....

This is a great reflective poem, it goes ...

"The good you find in others, is in you too. 

The faults you find in others, are your faults as well. 

After all, to recognize something you must know it. 

The possibilities you see in others, are possible for you as well. The beauty you see around you, is your beauty.

The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are. 

To change your world, you must change yourself. To blame and complain will only make matters worse. Whatever you care about, is your responsibility.

What you see in others, shows you yourself. 

See the best in others, and you will be your best. Give to others, and you give to yourself. 

Appreciate beauty, and you will be beautiful. Admire creativity, and you will be creative. 

Love, and you will be loved. Seek to understand, and you will be understood.

Listen, and your voice will be heard. Teach, and you will learn. 

Show your best face to the mirror, and you'll be happy with the face looking back at you ~

long lasting love

As i see around ,read observe  people, irrespective of relationships... i collate a possible list of what could be lead long lasting love between any 2 people ..

long lasting love = not only commitment, shared interests, unselfishness, physical attraction, communication but also possibly a sum of

• 1.       a certain look which sets the pulse racing
• 2.       to be still able to have fun and share a laugh
• 3.       ability to have/ spark some spontaneous good times
• 4.       enjoy simply being together. 
• 5.       there are surprises
• 6.       there is understanding of each other’s need for space to be one-self
• 7.       there is sharing of chores..but more of ideas, thoughts, dreams, desires
• 8.       there is forgiveness
• 9.       there is sensitivity to be moved by the small emotions of life we see around
• 10.   there is faith in god, in each other and the goodness of humanity, of hope
• 11.   finally, there is knowing of each other’s habits. 

i guess love lasts because it is comfortable and simple ; if it is real, the heart will make it plain and simple.